As I sit down to type this, I’m mowing down on a delicious-and ultra healthy-bowl of “Curried Green Lentil and Kale Soup”, cooked from scratch by yours truly… moi.
Yes, that’s right.. I said cooked from scratch.
And even though a ridiculous number of things have changed in my life since I started Code Culture, do you know what surprises me the most? That I actually cooked something from scratch.
And what’s even more surprising? It tastes like liquid gold.
It’s the kind of delicious that’s had me eating the leftovers for breakfast, lunch and dinner everyday this week with a smug satisfaction that I made it myself.
(What? You’ve never done that?)
Yeah, it’s just soup. And yeah, it’s not that hard. So, why is this such a big deal to me?
Because my entire life I’ve been telling people that I can’t cook.
It’s actually become a running joke, one that I even laugh about often!
“Lauren doesn’t cook, she just heats stuff up!”… “How the hell are you going to feed your future children?”… “What’s Chef Boyardee making for you tonight?”
Yup. That’s how it
is was and everyone knows knew it.
But here’s the kicker, I had never even tried cooking. Like, not once–unless you count adding butter and water to minute rice and nuking it for 4 minutes. Web design was my thing. Baking cute cupcakes was my thing. Cooking was not my thing.
Why wasn’t it my thing? I have no idea. I guess I was intimidated by it? Just didn’t see a real need for it? Seemed like too much work? Didn’t have the time? Seemed easier to let someone else do it for me?
It seems pretty stupid now, doesn’t it? I mean, how hard is it to follow a recipe? Yet there are millions of people out there who are just like me, walking around telling people that they “can’t” do things.
And let me tell you, there’s a special kind of gratification that comes with succeeding–in small steps–at something that you think you “can’t” do.
I hope by now you know where I’m going with this. If not, prepare for a mental bitch-slapping
It’s time to stop saying that you can’t do something and just start doing it.
Chefs don’t come out of the womb knowing how to cook. Financial advisors don’t come out knowing how to invest. Personal trainers don’t come out knowing how to get in shape. Photographers don’t come out knowing how to adjust the settings on their cameras. Need I say more?
Everything is teachable and the quickest way to learn anything is to teach yourself.
How do you know what you can and can’t do unless you’ve given it a solid effort?
I don’t know how to start a business.
I don’t know how to make money by freelancing.
I don’t know how to blog.
I don’t know to play guitar.
I don’t know how to code.
I don’t know how to send a freakin’ email.
Any of those things sound “unteachable” to you?
Have you ever failed at anything that you really set your mind to? Probably not. When you really want something, failure is not an option.
Now, what’s worse than wanting to learn something and never giving yourself a chance to learn it?
Knowing exactly how to do something but just not doing it.
Even though you really want to
I’m not losing weight.
I’m not saving money.
I’m not going to the gym 3x a week.
I’m not getting enough sleep.
I’m not drinking enough water.
I’m not taking my vitamins.
I’m not…. calling my Grandma enough?
Yes, we all have busy lives and yes, often a lot of time will go by before we’re like, “Shit.. I haven’t seen Grandma in forever,” and “OMG, I haven’t had anything to drink in 3 days except coffee,” and “Son of a bitch, I skipped the gym again!” and lastly, “W-T-FUDGE, I just ate 4 rows of Fudgee-os while watching The Bachelor.” (TMI?)
You tell yourself you’ll start tomorrow, right? Will you really, though?
Why does the road to success often feel too difficult?
Everyone wants things now and no one wants to work for them. We’re too comfortable. Too impatient. Too spoiled. Too “entitled”.
And we fear things…
Fear of the unknown.
Fear of failure.
Fear of public humiliation.
Fear of commitment.
Fear of ____________.
What’s the worst that can happen? Whatever it is, you won’t be any worse off than you are right now. No one’s going to hand you your version of the perfect life. You have to make it happen.
THE MORAL OF THE STORY…
If you let your fears, your lack of perseverance and your lack of patience run your day-to-day life, you are never going to get ahead. Five years from now you’ll still be wondering why you haven’t saved any money, lost 10 pounds and still work at that job that you can’t stand.
My recipe for a brighter future = Get to work
NOW IT’S YOUR TURN
What’s one thing that you’d like to learn this year that you never thought you’d be able to do? I’d love to hear in the comments below!